by Nicole Walters | Nov 19, 2019
I got into a fight.
I’m having one of those moments where if we had each other’s number girl, I would be picking up the phone to say, “Girl, girl, why are we like this?!”
So this episode is going to be a kick in the pants for both of us, cus I know we’re the same in this way. Why do we have the ability to grant people way more grace, way more forgiveness, way more excuses than we are willing to grant ourselves? Am I right?! Listen in for a chat we BOTH need to hear.
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00:00 Hey friend, you’re listening to The Nicole Walters Podcast. I’m a former six-figure corporate executive who woke up every morning feeling stuck in the life that I built for myself but using my corporate skills I took to the Internet and built a multi-seven-figure business, showing others how they can build a life they love. Now on this podcast, I share stories of being an entrepreneur, a mom to my three amazing girls and a wife to my crazy, cooky dancing Hubbin. I’ve had a couple of viral videos too. So you know there’s going to be a lot of laughs here. So whether you’ve seen me on my viral vids or on the Today Show or read about me in Forbes, this is the place where we can meet, share stories, share laughs, and share fun. I’m your best friend in your head. So sit back, listen close, and let’s get started.
00:49 Hey friend. So if you have been hanging out with me on Instagram @NicoleWalters or on Facebook, you may have caught a video that I did recently where I recorded one of my podcasts live and you were able to watch the process, how I did it and all that good stuff. And in that video, one of the things that I mentioned is that I often record my podcasts using voice memo or you know, in a Delta lounge while traveling or in my car. And I just want to give you a heads up that this podcast, the one that we’re listening to now, this chat that we’re having, is being recorded from my car in Atlanta traffic. And it’s because one, I have the time, you know, mommy life, I have a moment and two I need to talk to you. Like this is, I’m literally doing one of my moments where if we had each other’s number, girl, this will be me pickig up the phone and saying, girl, girl, why are we like this?.
01:50 Right? So this is what this chat is. So if you’re listening to this on your run or in the car, in the kitchen or whatever else, like this is friend to friend, we got to talk. So what I want to talk about is basically a kick in the pants for both of us. I know you’re like this because I know where the same. You get me, I am you. You are me. Like we get each other. Right? We’re weird, we’re quirky, we’re awkward, we’re dedicated, we love what we do, we love our people and we’re living for something more. And I say all this to say what is wrong with us? Where we have the ability to grant people grace, way more grace, way more forgiveness, way more space, way more excuses than we’re willing to grant ourselves.
02:35 Am I right? I mean, people can do stuff and we will unpack every single way that we think that we’re responsible for their behavior. We will try to find a million rationales around how maybe they didn’t mean that or isn’t that not the way or what is this all about? Or just trying to understand it, but we don’t extend that same kindness, grace and understanding to ourselves, am I right? It’s like so crazy. We will make a mistake in our business and our life and our parenting and we will beat ourselves up for it. Just like to no end. And like, and I say all this because this is me all day. I’m just so dedicated to my kids. Like you guys know, like as a mama you, if something snaps in your brain right, you lose your whole mind. You literally just can’t even function like normal anymore.
03:23 And like, so when I make a mistake parenting, cause I do all the time, I mean literally our life, our home, if you guys follow along on Facebook and Instagram, you guys know it is controlled chaos around here. Okay? We are a functional hot mess, right? That is the real deal. But I’m telling you, I make mistakes all the time. And as an adoptive mom and a new mom, you know, I will just beat myself up like, Oh my goodness, you know, they’re going to need therapy for this for sure. Like, I wish I had gotten this right and I mean there are never like mistakes. I mean, half the time my kids are like, I don’t even remember that, you know? But I’m beating myself up about it. Like I’m not allowed to make mistakes, but then get this, I’ll have a coworker or a team member or a vendor or my husband or someone else, or even even my sweet 8-year-old, the Puffin, will make a mistake and I will sit there and explain, you know, why we’re flawed people and why it’s okay to make errors and how each of these things is a learning experience and an opportunity for growth.
04:27 And you know all the things that are honestly the truth. You guys know that it’s the truth. That’s how it is. When our kids make mistakes, we don’t beat them up and say, you are a screw up and you’ll never get it right. We say to them, Hey, these things happen. So y’all friend, why don’t we do this to ourselves? Why can’t we have that same conversation with ourselves? What is it about our relationship with ourselves where we can’t grant ourselves that same grace and speak with the same kindness. Now, how I came to all of this and if we’ve been hanging out on social, I know that we do, you saw that I got a Peloton bike and this is one of those, you know, stationary bikes. If you’re not familiar with the world of Peloton, it’s a stationary bike that you have in your house, but it has like video instructors on it and it’s, it’s one of those spin bike classes.
05:17 So you kind of clip yourself into the pedals and you get out there and you go really, really fast and you’re able to do, you know, something like five to 10 miles in like 30 minutes of biking, right? And all of it’s guided and coached and you know, you, it’s kind of, you’ve got this virtual experience going where you’re in a class, but you know, it’s just, it’s just really high tech thing. And I got this bike because I really felt like one, you know, I really want to lose eight pounds. Very specific number because you know, if I, if I hit that number then I’m like, Oh I did it. Now I can lose another 10 because Lord knows I need more. Right. But you set these mini goals. So for right now I wanna lose eight pounds, right? And then from that, you know, I just want to keep my heart health up and you know, I’m a mom, I want to stick around for my kids and all that good stuff.
06:02 So I get this bike because you know it’s convenient and I’m going to be at home and I can work out. Well, let me tell you about the mental process of riding this bike. Again, if you watch on Facebook, you’ll see the very first time I got on it was not smooth. Nothing about my life is smooth. It was a hot mess. It was funny, but it was a mess. But let’s talk about how my first ride actually went. I get on this bike, y’all, and if you’ve ever gotten back to working out after not working out for a long time or ever, you know, joined a new class after not doing that for a long time, like if that has ever been your life, I can tell you right now, you relate, you relate to this. I get into this, on this bike, right?
06:44 And I get on this bike and the first thing that happens is I’m like, oh, I can do this. It’s like, it’s like that first 30, 30 seconds to one minute lie that we all tell ourselves, right? I can do this. And you started doing it and you go a little bit too hard. You know what I mean? Like you’re like, Oh, I can do all the moves and I can go all the speed and I can go all the rate. And then like about the two, maybe four minute mark, I’m like, Oh, this is how I die. I, you know, all my life, I’ve been walking around thinking I didn’t know what was going to take me out. And it turns out it’s going to be this right here, right? That was where I was. Haha. I was like, mind you, we’re talking four minutes in.
07:22 And I’m like, Oh, okay. So you know, I hope my family misses me when I’m gone because this right here is not, this is it. You know, so, so that’s what happened next. And then maybe like the 10-12 minute mark. I’m like, okay, you got it. You got to keep going. Like you can’t be a quitter. Mind you guys. Can we just say for the record, this was a 20 minute workout. I wasn’t even doing like a full 45 minutes. So I’m 50% of the way through this workout. And I’m saying to myself like, you can do this, you can do this. Then like a minute passes. And I’m like, why did you do this? What did you do this? And I’m like beating myself up, like, you know, you said you would do this thing and you can do it and what’s wrong with you?
08:01 And if you can’t even last 10 minutes, I mean, what is 10 minutes? Like, you know, you can’t even finish a pizza in 10 minutes. Like what’s wrong with you? Like I’m like, the narrative in my head and guys, I think you’re like this too and you get it. I’m like overall a pretty positive person. So it was actually surprising to me to hear the way that I was railing into myself. Like I was giving myself like, what is wrong with you and why can’t you do this? And I was just giving myself the hardest time. And then within giving myself that hard time, I then proceeded to go, immediately thereafter and like have to re-coach myself like, Oh no, like you can do this. You’re just, it’s just difficult because it’s hard and you only have 20 minutes, you have five minutes left and you know, that sort of thing.
08:43 So anyone who works out or is thinking about working out or has ever tried to work out, you guys get it. There’s this mental gymnastics that you have to play this narrative because your brain will naturally create all these thoughts. So I say all of this to say that in having that sort of dynamic with myself, it was the first time in a really long time that I have ever been so, for lack of better word, cruel with myself. I was just cruel. I wasn’t nice. It was like, you know, I’m taking on something that is difficult and my response to myself was, what’s wrong with you?
Why aren’t you good at this? And I bring this up because a lot of you guys are taking on new things every day, whether it’s tackling something new at work or maybe it’s a new friendship or maybe you’re working on your marriage.
09:29 I mean, jumping into business ownership, there’s just so many things that we have to tackle every single day that are new and we just give ourselves such a hard time with it. I mean, heck, life is hard enough, right? We’re tackling that and we give ourselves a hard time and I just want to say we’ve got to start extending the same grace that we so willingly and eagerly give to others, to ourselves. We are just as deserving of the kindness, the positivity, the spirit of generosity that we extend to others, and that frankly, if you’re a God girl, that the Bible calls us to do and and above all else, we aim to be that. That’s who we are, right? We aim to be that person where we’re able to find the opportunity, give others the benefit of the doubt, and I just want us to agree, me and you, to start giving that to ourselves. That we’re going to hold each other accountable, right?
10:22 I’m going to make sure that if I hear you kind of giving yourself a kick in the butt that you don’t deserve or not really putting a mistake into context and saying, Hey, you know, I make mistakes, or, Hey, I’m new to this, or, Hey, I’m learning this, or Hey, there’s no way I was going to know that information the first time and now that I know it, I’ll never do it again, right? Let’s just start treating ourselves with that same kindness because guess what? You’re somebody’s mama and you’re doing an awesome job. You are somebody’s boss or coworker, wife or sister or friend, and you’re doing a great job and you know how I know you are because you’re doing your best. You are truly showing up every single day despite what the world is throwing at you and life is difficult and you are absolutely doing your best. And I want you to know that that is enough. I’m so glad we had this time to chat. Thank you for helping me wade through the Atlanta traffic and I cannot wait for us to chat again next week.
11:26 Bye friend. Thanks so much for listening, friend. If you enjoyed this podcast, head over to NicoleWalters.com. I’d love for us to stay in touch, so make sure you drop your email address so I can send you inspiration, business details and the occasional funny story and because I’m so generous, there might even be a selfie in the mix. Thanks again. Make sure you subscribe and come back soon.
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- Why we need to give ourself more grace right now, and
- Why the words we say to ourselves matter!
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by Nicole Walters | Nov 12, 2019
The Family Rules
I love how we can come here to talk not just business but go deep on our values, things we believe, things that really matter! Because Thanksgiving is coming up, we’re talking about family today and not just anything but the rules that keep my family run smoothly.
I get so many questions on parenting and if you haven’t heard the story of how many family was formed just 5 years ago, make sure you check out episode 1 of the show. It’s the basis for everything!
So today I’m diving deep into the rules that keep our family close, help each individual find success and helps me keep my mommy guilt in check. My hope is that you can learn something from these rules, maybe even to implement in your household.
Thanks for joining me today – I always appreciate you showing up for our weekly chats! What rules do your families live by? Let me know on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter. I can’t wait to hear from you!
00:00 Hey friend, you’re listening to The Nicole Walters Podcast. I’m a former six-figure corporate executive who woke up every morning feeling stuck in the life that I built for myself but using my corporate skills I took to the Internet and built a multi-seven-figure business, showing others how they can build a life they love. Now on this podcast, I share stories of being an entrepreneur, a mom to my three amazing girls and a wife to my crazy, cooky dancing Hubbin. I’ve had a couple of viral videos too. So you know there’s going to be a lot of laughs here. So whether you’ve seen me on my viral vids or on the Today Show or read about me in Forbes, this is the place where we can meet, share stories, share laughs, and share fun. I’m your best friend in your head. So sit back, listen close, and let’s get started.
00:48 Hey friend, so this chat is actually a little different. We are coming up on Thanksgiving break in a little bit and I wanted to talk about family. I think it’s great because we can come here and chat about things that have to do with business or we can talk about some of our values and things we believe, but I want to dive deep on the real deal. The kids are going to be home and I get a lot of questions about parenting. So I want to start with this disclaimer: Mama, whatever you do to help your family be its best is what’s right to do. There’s a lot of voices out there that are telling you that you need to parent this way or that you’re not doing enough. “I can’t believe you use plastics and you don’t feed your kid organic and you vaccinate your kids and you don’t vaccinate your kids.”
01:37 I mean, there’s so many voices out there that are screaming that you’re doing it wrong and all I want you to know in everything we’re about to chat about today is that as long as you’re doing your best, then that’s enough. We don’t need one more person telling us that it’s not good enough because guess what? Our kids are going to do things like stick erasers in their ear at school and that’s going to make us feel like we’re not doing enough. We don’t need one more person reminding us. So I say all of that to let you know that today’s chat is based on a lot of questions that I get in. You send me messages on Instagram or on Facebook or you email me at [email protected] and I get tons of questions.
02:20 So I wanted to take the time to kind of go through some of our family rules, some of the things that have really helped us to get closer to each other to find success in our individual tasks and to be completely candid and transparent, really helped alleviate some of the mommy guilt that I feel everyday because I run a business because I travel because what we do is unconventional. And I have to say some of these things may seem strict or weird for some of you and some of them may be like, Oh my gosh, light bulb moment. This is something that we definitely want to do, but no matter what, we are really, really proud of the way that we are presenting ourselves in the world. We’re proud of the girls that we are raising and above all else we’re really grateful because some of these rules came from you. They came from moms who’ve sent us messages saying, Hey, have you thought about trying this or internet aunties that were like, Oh my gosh, you know, I’ve been teaching for 10 years and you know, this is something that can work.
03:15 So I’m throwing all these out here and I’m saying that we’re happy and comfortable and grateful for where we are. But you know, I’m also saying that I hope that they could possibly help you guys grow as well. Now I want to talk about the family rules. If you aren’t familiar with our family’s story and how we came to be, go back and listen to episode one. It’s our very first chat we’ve ever had and it sets the tone for the time that we spend here every single week. And if you have listened to that chat, then you know that we just became a family five years ago. We’re all new to this and there’s nothing more freeing than knowing as a mom that it doesn’t matter if it’s been five years or 15 years, your kids will likely show up someday with something random that you never expected or encountered before and you’ve got to fix it.
03:58 So we’re always trying to make it up as we go and do the best we can. So some of the rules that we have, our biggest rule by far in our household is this, “Tell the truth because if you can ask, you can get an answer.” Now, this truth is from just the way that I grew up. I grew up in a household where, because my parents are from Ghana, West Africa, you don’t spend a lot of time kind of questioning the rules. And what I’ve found in talking to a lot of internet aunties and uncles is that that’s not really that uncommon that you guys actually, you know, like you grew up in the South or kind of with old school, old value parents, you know, kids are to be seen and not heard. You are to follow the rules and not question authority. And the reality is kids are curious and they’re complex and if they learn how to respectfully challenge and ask questions, well you ended up developing a well rounded competent leader who can express themselves and live by a strong moral code as well.
04:57 And that is why we are so big in our household in particular and saying let’s have open dialogue. So what does that look like? It looks like this. If our kids ask us about sex, well guess what? We’re ready to talk about sex and we’re ready to talk about it from a truthful perspective. And that means not just telling them what we want them to know, but what they need to know. That means talking about married sex and also talking about sex that is very popularized in society. It means talking about how they might feel, their emotions and also talking about the fact that they can control their emotions. And it also talks about not feeling judged and knowing that no matter what you do, you’re still worthy and loved and you’re never going to be at risk of losing that love from me, your dad or from God.
05:48 So having these conversations while unpleasant and uncomfortable because they are the definition of true parenting, we’d rather have our kids feel comfortable knowing that they can come to us and get honest, truthful answers instead of going to the internet or to their friend down the street or just making up answers in their head. That’s why we have that rule. If you could ask, you deserve an answer. Now, right after that rule is our rule about being allowed to challenge any rules and any consequences. And I know that sounds crazy because it’s like if there are rules that can be challenged then how are they rules at all? Well, what it means is that we are open to dialogue. We want kids that are fearless about speaking truth to power. So what that means is if they’re in a room and they see an injustice happening, we want to raise kids that know how to one, identify that injustice and two, know how to speak up eloquently and professionally and respectfully in order to get that justice changed.
06:56 And there’s no better place to practice that than in your own home. So when my 17 year old comes to me and says, mom, I want to go out. I want to hang out with my friends. I want to be there until 12 this is what’s going on. Well, sounds great. The rules are that you need to be in by 8:30 especially on a school night. And I need to know all the details. You’re not going to over to anyone’s home where I don’t know their parent. And of course we don’t do sleep overs. These are rules that we have. Now, if my 17 year old comes back and says, well, I’ve done some research and these are reasons why I feel like this rule can change and here are some ways that I think I can meet you halfway. And so additional things I’d like to bring to the table to make sure that you’re comfortable in knowing that I will follow this rule and that it will not challenge any of our other roles.
07:42 Well, if she does the work, we’re willing to modify because honestly, secretly between the two of us, we know that we don’t know everything. We know that as parents were doing the best we can and sometimes don’t tell him, but our kids are right. So that’s why we have this rule. Now, does it mean that they’re always right now, but it does mean that they learn how to craft an argument and make sure that they know how to persuade with respect. And those are the types of people that we want to leave in the world. Another rule that we have that seems like a no-brainer, and I think that a lot of families live and die by this rule, but they never really articulated is that we’re a team. I think it’s easy to assume that as a family, we already know that we’re a team, but it’s really important for us to say, Hey, we are Team Walters.
08:35 And what that means is that we have clearly articulated to our family that we rely on each other to be able to perform our best. Because they’re my babies forever, whether they’re age six or age 16 or age 60, wherever I am on this planet, if I don’t know my venues are okay, I’m not going to be able to perform my best. And that is really important. And so I’ve articulated to them that while I don’t expect my kids to fund my bills or take care of me, what I do need them to do as part of the team members is do their very best to take good care of themselves, to use strong communication and to remember what mom and dad have taught them and live their lives with good morals and values. Because if they can do that, well then mom can be confident getting on stage.
09:19 She knows that she doesn’t have to worry about her babies and she doesn’t hear from them for a couple of days. She knows they’re okay because they know that they’re part of a team. They know that they belong to someone in something and if they’re able to abide by that, well then guess what else? Mom can bring in those coins and we can do those vacations and I’m able to help support them if they need it because a team works together. It also lets them know that because we’re a team we don’t lose by ourselves. So if you’re having a bad day or if you’re running into a problem, well guess what? You’re surrounded by teammates. You don’t have to do it by yourself. We’re here to help you with that heavy lift. It doesn’t matter if it’s self created or if it’s a lift for us all, we do it together.
10:06 That’s like teamwork is such a big rule in the Walters household. We have a couple of quick ones and these ones are just general rules that we have in the house, but they kind of really help us function. They just make sure that our day goes with ease and that we use structure and there are things that we never really thought were that big of a deal. But when I talk about them on social media, whether it’s on my Instagram, @NicoleWalters or Facebook, if you follow me around there, a lot of times you guys point those out. Internet aunties will say, Oh, what an interesting rule. So I’m going to point them out here once and for all and kind of explain why they are. Now, one of the rules we have is everyone on the same floor. Now I actually got this role for my dear friend Chalene Johnson.
10:46 She uses this with her kids and they’re all grown and out of the house now but it was a rule that when I became a new mom I definitely wanted to apply. And it’s a simple rule, it’s that we don’t come in at the end of the day after school, run up to our room and close the door. It’s just not an option. Sure you can go upstairs, get whatever you need, but we all are on the same floor. If we’re awake in the house, we’re on the same floor. You don’t have to be in the same room. You don’t have to sit right next to me. Heck, we don’t even have to watch the same TV show or interact or talk. You can sit on your phone in another room, but we need to be on the same floor. And the reason why is this, how many of us have heard those stories of the kids who just lock themselves in the room every single day and the parents only saw them when they came down for a bite to eat or Monday through Friday, they didn’t see them at all.
11:34 Only to find out that child was going up there and crying or having a difficult day or sexting or doing something inappropriate or doing something amazing like painting or dancing or some other gift. Here’s the thing, it’s really difficult to be involved in your kids’ lives if you don’t see them. And if you’re anything like me and you’re a busy mom, whether it’s cooking or cleaning or anything of that sort, you may not have the time to run upstairs into a room or knock on a door, but guess what? If you have to walk past them a couple times or if they have to be right out of the corner of your eye while you’re cooking in that kitchen, it’s a lot easier to keep tabs. It’s a lot easier to see their face. It’s a lot easier to hear them giggle and chuckle while they find a funny meme and ask them what’s so funny?
12:24 Frankly, it’s a shortcut to parenting and we found that keeping all of us in the same room means that we interact a lot more and so that’s why that’s one of our rules. Everyone on the same floor. Another rule we have is at night phones stay downstairs. Now our kids don’t even get phones until they’re 16 there are million means to communicate and we definitely want to make sure that they stay safe, but we try to keep phones out of their hands. Smart phones that is, the ones with the flat screens until they’re 16 and that’s because there’s really nothing for them to do. They’re not using that phone to start a business. They’re not using that phone interact and frankly, if they want to hang out with their friends, we’d rather that they did it in person because that’s how relationships are actually fostered.
13:09 They’re not just fostered through having a mean Snapchat streak. We want to make sure they understand how to interact and build valuable connections, but once they get those phones, they don’t go to bed with those phones. They stay downstairs in mom and dad’s room and then they can pick them up in the morning. The answer for this is simple. It’s just because we want them to have a good nights sleep. Kids need it a good nights. Sleep helps their brains grow. It helps them function and it helps them make better decisions. Being a teenager is hard enough. We want to make sure that we minimize distractions that keep them from growing into the best they can be and it’s really easy when you have that phone to stay up all night cause #guilty. I’ll go to bed and I’ll scroll for a few minutes before I actually close my eyes. And the last thing I want is my teenager doing this when they have to wake up at 5:00 AM to catch the bus so that said phones stay downstairs. And a couple of little ones, we want to make sure they have great eyebrows because as we know, eyebrows are the window to your soul.
14:13 We exfoliate, we exfoliate as a family. We make it important that we recognize that our skin matters. We think it’s important to come in before the street lights come on. It’s super old school but we don’t want our kids out too late. What is it that moms always say there’s nothing open after 10 but liquor stores haha. I want my kids in before it gets too late. We also make sure that we let our kids know that it’s important that they work towards something. We don’t care what it is that they want to become. We don’t care how they want to use the gifts that God’s given them, but we do know that they need to constantly progress. Even if it doesn’t look like perfection. It’s not okay to live life without a plan. This may come from something that my dad used to say growing up.
15:01 He used to say, my daughter, idle hands will do the devil’s work. Really Dad? Idle hands do the devil’s work? Haha. I get it. But what he means is if you’re not busy, you’ll fall into anything. There’s so many things going on and honestly, we’re at our best when we’re productive and that’s what we try to tell our girls. I don’t care if you want to become a dancer and accountant or a superstar, whatever it is every single day, give your best and make progress towards it. And we have a ton of other little rules that we follow, like going to therapy and respecting each other, having one on one conversations. If we feel like we need to really hash things out and of course progress, not perfection, but ultimately I think one of our biggest rules and the one that I want to close on today and share with you in hopes that it may help you and your family as well is showing gratitude.
15:54 Now we have a lot to be grateful for as the Walters, our family wasn’t even a thing five years ago. We are so grateful that God saw us fit to find each other and we want to make sure that we extend that gratitude into all of the many places that he continues to manifest in our lives. And for that reason we constantly tell our kids, be grateful. Know that it could be so different in our lives, in our health, in our finances, and we are so blessed every single day to have the family that we have. And for that reason, we not only show gratitude to each other, we not only show grace to each other, but we recognize that we have an opportunity to live our legacy now and we are grateful for God for that chance. Gratitude is the overarching theme in our household and I hope that with some of these rules, with some of the things we’ve discussed today that you can extend it in yours. I love spending our time together week after week and I hope you have a great holiday and maybe some of these rules make it a little easier.
17:07 I’ll chat with you again. Thanks so much for listening, friend. If you enjoyed this podcast, head over to NicoleWalters.com. I’d love for us to stay in touch, so make sure you drop your email address so I can send you inspiration, business details and the occasional funny story and because I’m so generous, there might even be a selfie in the mix. Thanks again. Make sure you subscribe and come back soon.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What rules keep my family close and connected,
- The answers to some of your – Why do you do that? – questions, and
- How these rules help me keep my mommy guilt in check
Resources and links mentioned in this episode:
More about The Nicole Walters Podcast:
The Nicole Walters Podcast is for the everyday entrepreneur that wants to increase their income but doesn’t know where to start. If that’s you, you’re in the right place!
Nicole Walters is a wife, mom, income strategist, entrepreneur, and the founder of The Monetized Life™. Join Nicole each week for a new episode packed with what you need to know to gain clarity, grow your network and monetize your life using the proven corporate strategies she mastered in 10 years as a Fortune 500 executive.
Whether you’re just starting out and don’t know your next step, or you’re multi-passionate and don’t know the right next step, Nicole is here to break it down for you! Richfriend, let’s add some commas to your bank account!
Listen each week. Do. The. Work, and success WILL come!
by Nicole Walters | Nov 5, 2019
The Hard Calls
You’ve probably heard someone say, “Progress over Perfection” before and man, is that true! It’s easy to get stuck in not producing in your business because of perfection. BUT it’s not just about progress over perfection, it’s also about making sure that you’re focused on substance over appearance.
In this episode I want to talk to you about leading with substance in your business and life and how not to get stuck comparing yourself to those that appear closer to “perfection” than you are. The truth is they aren’t closer and I’m telling you how they’re falsely giving off that appearance in this episode.
Thanks for spending time with me today friend! Head over to instagram or twitter to share your sustainable wins with me! Talk soon.
00:00 Hey friend, you’re listening to The Nicole Walters Podcast. I’m a former six-figure corporate executive who woke up every morning feeling stuck in the life that I built for myself but using my corporate skills I took to the Internet and built a multi-seven-figure business, showing others how they can build a life they love. Now on this podcast, I share stories of being an entrepreneur, a mom to my three amazing girls and a wife to my crazy, cooky dancing Hubbin. I’ve had a couple of viral videos too. So you know there’s going to be a lot of laughs here. So whether you’ve seen me on my viral vids or on the Today Show or read about me in Forbes, this is the place where we can meet, share stories, share laughs, and share fun. I’m your best friend in your head. So sit back, listen close, and let’s get started.
00:49 Hey friend, so in this particular chat I actually want to talk about something that I know you’ve heard the other side of it many of times. Frankly I actually have been someone who’s talked to you about it before. You’ve probably heard someone say or seen it on a graphic or a post or one of those pictures where the cat is kinda clinging onto a tree and says, just hang on. Right? You’ve probably heard someone say progress over perfection. And you know what? That is very true. It is a thing. It is so easy when you’re someone like me and like you that is committed to your progress, that wants to be your best, that cares about what you’re putting out into the world, that you’ll stall. You’ll wait, you’ll quit instead of actually getting the job done. But it’s not just about progress over perfection, but it’s also making sure that you’re not focused on appearance instead of substance.
01:50 That’s right. Now let me tell you how I learned this and how it standing out to me every single day. I live in Atlanta now and if you don’t know much about Atlanta, it’s a big city, often referred to as the New York of the South, and that means that we’ve got a wide variety of people here and honestly, I love it here. I’m an Atlanta girl through and through. Believe it or not, growing up in DC was an amazing experience, but I’m Southern to the core. I love a good sweet tea. I love to say hello and there’s nothing like being invited to 10 Thanksgivings before you even leave the Home Goods because I chat up with strangers. I fit in the South, but I also want you to know that in Atlanta I’ve seen another side of the city because guess what? They’ve got their ritzy nature, their fancy cars and flashy people, fine jewels and high-end designer clothes and everyone’s trying to fit in.
02:43 It’s almost part of the Atlanta culture that you want to give the appearance that you fit. But what I’ve also found is that in that drive, that desire to appear to fit in well, people are lacking substance and I want us to take that lesson and apply it to ourselves, to our business, to everything that we do. Are we really focused on getting perfection around appearance rather than perfection around our substance? Because guess what? Even if you’re making progress on that appearance, well, you’re not really making progress at all. I like to illustrate with this example. Do you know or have you met or possibly have the coworker or friend who insists on always having the nicest, newest car? Something fancy, something flashy, something that really stands out, but you know and I know and everybody else knows that they can’t afford that car. How are they making it happen with that budget?
03:46 That car has got to be outside of their means and I just want to pause here. I just want to take a moment to say this isn’t a God girl judging moment. We’re just looking at the facts of the matter. We just want to make sure that we are holding things in the right perspective so that when we’re painting our goals and looking forward that we’re painting them in a way that actually makes sense. Now, I want to tell you the truth behind that. A lot of your favorite Instagrammers, a lot of your favorite podcasters, a lot of the people that you watch every single day, that you’re saying to themselves, gosh, they have a life that really seems to reflect abundance, wealth, success, at least on a material level. What if I told you they are renting and leasing that life rather than owning it? What if I told you that that Lexus that they’re driving, well, it has 150,000 miles on it, and if you only knew that your a brand new Honda Civic that’s paid off, that you saved for, that truly is something that you can be proud of because it only has 10,000 miles on it and will go the distance.
04:56 Well, you should be proud of that, that your progress is actually a lot closer to perfection than the person who’s just giving off the appearance of perfection. I say this to you friend to remind you, to lift you, to tell you that if you are a mom who is just making ends meet and you’re working so hard to not just live within your means, but to make sure that you’re providing for your family, that you’re delaying gratification in order to make sure that your future is rich and abundant, and that your legacy lasts a lifetime. Well, I respect you. I respect you so much because you’re focused on something that’s at the core of being a strong business owner. You’re looking at small sustainable wins. It’s a win to have a little something left after that paycheck.
05:50 Heck, I grew up where it was a win if the paycheck was just enough to cover all the bills, there was nothing left, but there was a full tank of gas. Okay? It’s a win to shift away from saying, I just want to have a giant launch, or I just want to sell out, or I just want to be able to post a receipt of a huge number on Instagram. I just wanna show a scrolling screenshot of sales coming in. Listen, it’s not a win because you just managed to get a photo up on Instagram that reflects a curated life. Especially again, if that life is just one that you’re leasing, borrowing, indebted to on credit. Remember that you own your life. It’s still gonna be there long after that car is repossessed, long after you have to return that car because the lease is up, long after the debt collectors start calling in on that invoice.
06:50 Are you building a life and dedicated to making perfect progress towards the life that you want to own, keep and leave behind, or are you fixated on curating a life that just looks good temporarily, a rental? I say all this to let you know that if that thing inside of you is nagging you, where you’re saying to yourself, I just really want more breathing room, I just really want to be able to get by comfortably. I want to create experiences for my children, but also make sure that they’ve got a proper coat on their back and that they’re getting an education they deserve. I just want to cheer you on. Mama, I just want to say I’m in it with you that that’s what it’s actually about. Listen, I love a good designer bag and there’s nothing wrong with some nice shoes, but that’s not what it’s about.
07:40 That’s not who we are at our core, we’re about something more and building our businesses and dedicating ourselves to growing every single day to being strong and standing behind each other and saying that we’re out there talking about real values, not junk values, not values that are about things and bottom lines and things with dollar signs next to it and scrolling screenshots. That’s not what we’re about. We’re about things that are going to last. Again focused on saying, Hey, my business this year brought in more money than it lost. We turned a profit. Sure, we’re not millionaires yet, but guess what? We kept the lights on. We change lives. We made an impact. Let’s get out there and start celebrating that more. A whole lot more than the latest star to hit shade room because they’ve managed to make a whole bunch of money. That’s only one part of it.
08:43 What are you doing with the gifts that you’ve been given? At the end of the day, if there’s anything I can ask of you to join me in, let’s shift away from a society that’s fixated on quantity. I mean, gosh, that’s getting so old, right? It feels like everybody is worried about how much or where it’s from or what’s the label or who’s got what logo and let’s start focusing on the visual elements of real success. I want to see someone posting on Instagram that they’ve made it, that they’ve done charity work, showing their kids in the kitchen, learning how to bottle and package those goods with them. I want to see more of that and less of the designer bags stacked up in a closet while you’re trying on shoes. Sure, it’s a pretty image. But is that really #goals and is that really sustainable? I mean, girl, how many bags can one girl have?
09:41 Right? I mean, how many times have we seen our favorite reality stars celebrated for always wearing “the fashion” and having rows and rows of designer shoes? I mean, you’ve seen it on reality shows, right? With the red bottoms turned out and and the shots in between things showing their massive closet, only to find out a couple months later that they haven’t paid their taxes. I mean, those taxes are right there on the shelves. They just chose to spend that money in a way that bolstered their appearance, but the whole process lacks substance. I say all of this to let you know that if the things stopping you from moving forward today, if the thing nagging on you is saying, gosh, it feels like everybody is on vacation, it feels like everybody is living a flashy life. It feels like everyone has more financial ease than I do. Well, I just want you to take a moment and reflect on your choices.
10:35 What have they had to sacrifice? What peace of mind do they lack because they’ve chosen to spend in ways that are not aligned with your own? Do you have food in your fridge? Do you have gas in your car? Are your kids thriving and moving forward? Are you doing the best you can with what you’ve got? Because if so, I celebrate you. You’re the real Instagram star, and even if your likes and followers don’t reflect it, your future will. I’m so glad we had this time to chat together and I want to let you know that I’m standing with you to make sure that we’re about values that matter.
11:15 I can’t wait to chat with you next week. Bye friend. Thanks so much for listening, friend. If you enjoyed this podcast, head over to NicoleWalters.com. I’d love for us to stay in touch, so make sure you drop your email address so I can send you inspiration, business details and the occasional funny story and because I’m so generous, there might even be a selfie in the mix. Thanks again. Make sure you subscribe and come back soon.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- How some of your favorite instagrammers are portraying perfection,
- How to lead with substance in your business and life, and
- Why you’re actually further ahead than you think!
Resources and links mentioned in this episode:
More about The Nicole Walters Podcast:
The Nicole Walters Podcast is for the everyday entrepreneur that wants to increase their income but doesn’t know where to start. If that’s you, you’re in the right place!
Nicole Walters is a wife, mom, income strategist, entrepreneur, and the founder of The Monetized Life™. Join Nicole each week for a new episode packed with what you need to know to gain clarity, grow your network and monetize your life using the proven corporate strategies she mastered in 10 years as a Fortune 500 executive.
Whether you’re just starting out and don’t know your next step, or you’re multi-passionate and don’t know the right next step, Nicole is here to break it down for you! Richfriend, let’s add some commas to your bank account!
Listen each week. Do. The. Work, and success WILL come!
by Nicole Walters | Oct 29, 2019
Spoiled
It’s been awhile – I know! In this episode, I’m back and ready to catch you up on what’s been going on and why I took a break from these weekly chats. The truth is, it’s been a tough few months and I’m sharing with you, how I got through!
We’re chatting about my favorite therapy resource, openpathcollective.org and why I think trying therapy is so worth it.
These chats aren’t just one-sided though! I want to hear from you! Tweet me or send me a DM on Instagram or shoot me an email at [email protected]. I love to hear from you so don’t say quiet! Thanks for spending time with me today and for being on this journey with me friend. Talk soon!
00:00 Hey friend, you’re listening to The Nicole Walters Podcast. I’m a former six-figure corporate executive who woke up every morning feeling stuck in the life that I built for myself but using my corporate skills I took to the Internet and built a multi-seven-figure business, showing others how they can build a life they love. Now on this podcast, I share stories of being an entrepreneur, a mom to my three amazing girls and a wife to my crazy, cooky dancing Hubbin. I’ve had a couple of viral videos too. So you know there’s going to be a lot of laughs here. So whether you’ve seen me on my viral vids or on the Today Show or read about me in Forbes, this is the place where we can meet, share stories, share laughs, and share fun. I’m your best friend in your head. So sit back, listen close, and let’s get started.
00:49 Hey friend. So it’s been awhile since we’ve chatted and I’m glad that we can get back to it and resume our weekly chats, but I do want to catch you up on everything that’s been happening, what’s been going on over here and I definitely want to hear from you. So understand again, like I’ve always said that these chats are not just one way, they are for both of us to connect. It’s for me to share kind of what’s going on over here and give you the real deal behind building a business, being a mom, and just generally trying to get through this difficult thing called life and also to hear from you. So feel free to tweet me or send me a DM on Instagram or shoot me an email at [email protected]. I love to hear from you. So don’t say quiet over there. Go ahead and listen, but when you’re done, drop me a message and let me know kind of what you thought, where you are and get me updated.
01:45 And if you want to send me a picture of my little internet, nieces and nephews, I won’t be mad at that either. Now for today’s chat, what I wanted to talk about is why I’ve taken a bit of a break from the podcast. I mean, I’m a big believer in when you start something you gotta commit to it, but I’m also a believer in only really speaking when you have something of value to say. It’s actually why I didn’t set this up to be something where I interview people every single week. You know what that’s like, right? Where every single week there’s a different expert on and I ask them the same canned questions and you laugh a little bit or maybe you cry a little bit, but ultimately at the end of the day it’s not really different from any other chat. That’s not what this is. This is me and you sitting down, spending time together and relating to the things that really matter at the core, not just talking about me giving you a lecture on things you need to change or writing down the best business savvy things.
02:48 This is us hanging out, going on that run, doing that jog, that girlfriend next to you spending that time and keeping it real. And I got to tell you it hasn’t been any than, it’s been over the past couple of weeks and that’s why I’ve taken time off and I want to kind of have a girlfriend or girlfriend moment and talk about it. So as I mentioned a couple of chats ago, it’s been a really tough summer. If you’ve been falling on Instagram and Facebook, you know that my MidTiny, my sweet 17 year old was diagnosed with stage four Hodgkin’s lymphoma at the top of the summer. And praise God, you know, I’m a God girl. It was one more opportunity for Him to shine and show what he is possible of doing and she is completely healed of cancer and we are moving forward, you know with her spending my money and taking senior portraits and planning for prom and college and all those things without skipping a beat because God is faithful and has the final say.
03:48 So we are grateful for that. But it doesn’t change the point that when you go through trauma in your life, when you go through difficult things, you get changed. And that change can be for the good or for the better, but it can also be difficult to adapt to that change and I talked about that a little more in our previous chat where I said, you know, I’m just really not okay. That coming out of everything that it was just really difficult and I was kind of wading through the muck trying to make it happen. Now does that mean that I wasn’t the same old me? Sure. I’m still the same me. It’s just things felt heavy. I was tired whether it was flying directly from the hospital to speaking engagements and then coming from the airport right back to my baby’s bedside or making sure that there’s meals at home and ordering Instacart.
04:38 I mean it was just a lot. It was a heavy lift this summer and I was tired out. I was just flat out burnt out. I think you can relate, being a mom, we already have so much on our plate. I’m trying not to get choked up about it because this is how I am not I’m, I’m more sensitive. I’m raw. I don’t know what it is, but, and I think maybe some of you can relate and I hope that honestly, I hope some of you never can relate to this feeling, but when you realize that you can lose the thing that matters to you most, whether it is your marriage or your kids or your family, it really puts into perspective everything else. Truly everything else. I mean, I had to work to find the joy again. I had to take the steps to realize that just because I had to face something difficult with my family.
05:28 And you know, I just, I just got my baby. I just got her five years ago and the fact that I almost lost her, put everything into perspective and I had to realize that I still wanted to keep showing up and that I was choosing it and I had to realize that the reason why God preserved all of us was so that we can continue to realize the calling that He’s put upon our lives. And it was just difficult to show up everyday because things started feeling really small. I love our chats together, but taking the time out to chat here when I just wanted to look at my baby’s face for a few minutes, that was hard. And taking the time out to go live on social media or chat about things, that just seemed hard because all I wanted to do was be close to my kids because I almost lost them and I had to realize that that is exactly how negative forces if you’re a God girl, you know what I’m talking about.
06:35 If you’re not, you know what I mean. Negative forces in this world want nothing more than to stop your progress towards good. We beat cancer. We’re past it now. Yes, there are still scars from what we’ve been through, but it doesn’t change the fact that we still have to keep plowing and running towards good every single day. Whether those things take the form of a large challenge, a huge struggle paying those bills, a kid who’s sick, dealing with recurring illness in your own life or something smaller, believing that you can’t do it, a difficult tech problem, a car that won’t start. I can’t emphasize enough that the reason why I’m back here having these chats, despite what I’ve been through and the reason why you woke up today despite what you’ve gone through is because you are needed to advance the will of good. There are good things out there.
07:39 You are different from most. You are invested in becoming your best self. You are invested in creating a world that for all of our babies, for mine and for yours is going to be a better place. You’re out here doing the difficult work, pursuing the work of growing, changing, adapting, trying new things, showing up every day for your babies when Lord knows you deserve that sleeping and you’re doing all of that because you know what you believe, you believe this world can be in a better place and even if you feel like you could do more, guess what? The fact that you show up every day for your kids and you teach them manners, like say thank you, respect others, do your best. All of that pushes a world in the right direction and it’s important that you identify that these things that try to stand in your way, whether it’s cancer or a car that just won’t quit giving you problems, that these things are small, trivial things that you can overcome and no matter what, don’t let those distractions keep you from your purpose.
08:43 Now, a lot of that is easier said than done. Obviously our chats help, right? It’s a way to start off your week. It’s a way for us to set the tone to spend time together because as much as I’m saying these things out loud to you, I’m hearing them myself. I need this also, but I also want to let you know that a great resource that I’ve engaged, that I continue to engage and I continue to talk about is therapy. I want to tell you what therapy isn’t. Before I tell you what it is, what there’ll be isn’t because I grew up in a world where with my parents, you know, culturally we don’t do therapy. Therapy is for people who have issues, right? Therapy is for people who are crazy therapy is for people who aren’t strong and aren’t capable or are too, having too much trouble managing. Therapy as a sign of weakness.
09:33 That’s what I grew up with. But I want to let you know that’s not quite true. I want to maybe challenge you to know that, Hey, it’s me, Nicole, right? And you know that I only want the best for you and the best for myself and the best for this world. And you know that I would not recommend something to you if I didn’t really believe in it. So all I ask is if you’ve ever thought that therapy may not be for yours too expensive or something else that you just kind of lean in and maybe open mindedly listen to what I have to say. And if it works for you, pursue it. But if you don’t guess what it costs you. Nothing to stay exactly where you are right now. Nothing but maybe a little bit of growth. So I want to tell you a bit about therapy and why I use it, how I use it, and how it’s helped me and my family.
10:21 That’s what this chats about today. And for some of you it may be a little uncomfortable. For some of you, you may be like, yes girl all day. And for some of you, and you may say this is brand new information, but I’m open to hearing it. All I ask is that you stick it out with me because this could change everything. So in my own pain, I had to realize that not only is it not okay to not be okay, but what wasn’t okay was for me not to try to get better because there’d be isn’t just about you. It’s about how you engage in this world. It’s about how you interact with others. And therapy is only as effective as the person who shows up willing to engage it. For some of you who’ve been in therapy for a long time, therapy has been a place where you sit and you vent and you share your feelings and someone nods across from me and says, I see how you could feel that way. What if I told you therapy could be more? That therapy is a place where you should be growing and feeling uncomfortable, that you should be challenging some of your thoughts that you’ve held for a really long time.
11:27 That therapy is only effective if you’re honest with your therapist. If you sit down and you tell the truth, not just your truth, but the whole truth about everything that you’re experiencing, how people interact and take personal responsibility for how you engage in the world. And then therapy is most effective when you go home and you practice what you’re learning, and that means examining thoughts that may not be organic to you. Recognizing how your thoughts and decisions and beliefs about yourself are interacting with how you help others and teach your kids and how you make decisions about your business and yourself. I’m telling you that therapy may be something that you want to interact with because you may have grown up in a world where instead of therapy, people told you that you’re supposed to talk to your spouse or your best friends or your pastor.
12:18 Now has a God girl, I tell you this to say that none of those people is a therapist and I want to put it into this context for you because you know I’m a God girl and I believe in the power of healing from the word, but I also want to let you know that God has granted and gifted amazing scientific doctors who are out there and specialists in every single part of our body. I watched doctors use the power of their God-given gifts to heal my baby of cancer and I want to tell you that therapists have those same gifts, to heal some of the thoughts that may be in your brain that you are working every single day looking at every self-help book and every single course hiring all the life coaches and talking your husband’s ear off about. Therapists are empowered with the ability to actually quiet, if not remove some of those thoughts with you.
13:15 You still have to do the work, but they’re specialists in that. Understand stand that if your heart hurts, if you are having heart arrhythmia and cardiac arrest and your and your heart is beating irregularly, well you don’t go to your pastor and say, Hey can you fix that? You go to a cardiologist, you see a specialist and I want to tell you that your brain works the same way. If your brain is telling you things that some part of you knows just isn’t true or some part of you is just fighting to to get out of that funk to believe that that the thing isn’t true. What I encourage you to see a therapist because that’s what a therapist is. There were specialists in brain feelings, thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and if you lean in they can actually give you tools that make it better.
14:06 Now it’s hard sometimes to find the right therapist, just like you may have to see more than one doctor for a second opinion. You may have to take the same journey with your mental health worker, but I want to tell you some of the reasons why this journey may be worth it. The first reason is that you carry a big load. You are the strength through your family. Your coworkers are relying on you. You spend most of your time listening, being, and doing, or everyone else. I honestly want to know outside of these times that we spend with each other, sitting here chatting and talking, how much time do you really spend letting someone else know what you need, how you feel, how you can be supported? Or is most of your time listening to other peoples’ request? Honey, can you grab this for me when you get out?
15:05 Mommy, can you fix this for me? Susan, can you fix this report? I mean, how much of your time is spent doing for others and not looking internally to determine what you need for yourself? Listen, there’s a lots and lots of talk about self care. Lots and lots of talk about taking breaks and doing yoga, relaxing and treating yourself to a spa day. I want to tell you all those things are important and valuable and they do help improve you. But guess what? Sometimes the work is an inside job and not an outside one, and I got to tell you, the conversations that you have with yourself right now, they’re not always positive. Sometimes we’re listening to each other here and having these chats to drown out the noise of the negative chance we’re having with ourselves. And I want to let you know that you can rewrite your truths, the things that you’ve been believing, that you’re not good enough, that you’re not capable, that you’re not enough for your family, your friends, or your business, that it will never work. That if you actually attain success, it will break you.
16:17 Everything negative that you have heard in your head and thus believe is true can be rewritten. You don’t have to accept it. It doesn’t have to be your truth. It doesn’t have to be your reality. And I say all this, to let you know that they’re ropy can be the ticket. I want you to recognize that recharging your battery, that taking the time out to go and grow with the help of an amazing therapist can be the very thing that can help you get to the next level. Here’s what I’d love for you to do. There’s a great resource out there, especially for those of you who’ve already tapped out and said, Nicole, I hear you, but therapy is expensive, well, guess what? There’s a great resource out there and it’s called OpenPathCollective.org.
17:11 Open Path Collective works with therapists across the nation to provide in person and virtual therapy resources. That means that you can meet with the therapist privately from your phone on something like Skype or zoom and video chat with them to have your sessions every single week. If it’s a little scary to imagine going in and sitting in an office or you’re not really ready to take those steps, there are therapists who are willing to work with you. And those of us who’ve heard that therapy costs anywhere from one 50 to $200 an hour, well Open Path Collective has worked it out so that these therapists are offering their services at a reduced rate. You can get therapy services for as little as $30 a session. And I know $30 a tank of gas and maybe some groceries, but I got to tell you what’s the point of going to work if you absolutely hate being there and you can’t get past the thoughts that you don’t deserve it or your work isn’t good enough.
18:15 I’m telling you that therapy can change everything. It’s definitely worth a whole lot more than that manicure that costs you $30 and if you go to openpathcollective.org you can possibly find someone who’s a good fit for you up therapist that looks like you or is in your town or city. Some of that you can relate to and no is objective that they’re not bringing any judgements against you and that they’re just there to see you grow into your best self. It’s kind of like when you go shopping and you pick out an outfit that you love and you want to have someone, not your best friend, but just someone who walks by tell you if it looks good and you know if that person tells you it looks good, they don’t mean anything about it.
19:00 But if they also tell you, oh, you know, I dunno if this is the right fit, then you’re like, okay, maybe this isn’t the right fit because that person holds no judgements against you and they’re not just trying to say the right thing to make you feel better. That’s what therapy is like. And even better. What if you found out that that person giving you advice on that outfit randomly was also a professional stylist who styles people like Beyonce and Taylor Swift. You actually got advice from a pro and all you had to do was show up and of course ask for help. I’m telling you that no matter what you’re going through now, no matter what may come later, that it is possible to get better and it is possible, even after a break like I just took, to show back up, to be ready to serve, to lean in to conversations with your closest internet friends and to be happy that you’re here. I’m so glad that we’re having these chats. I’m excited for us to do this again next week and every week thereafter. Thanks for taking out the time friend and I’m excited for you to spoil yourself with great therapy.
20:19 We’ll chat soon. Thanks so much for listening, friend. If you enjoyed this podcast, head over to NicoleWalters.com. I’d love for us to stay in touch, so make sure you drop your email address so I can send you inspiration, business details and the occasional funny story and because I’m so generous, there might even be a selfie in the mix. Thanks again. Make sure you subscribe and come back soon.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why I took a break from these weekly chats,
- What I’ve learned from a tough summer, and
- How I got through it!
Resources and links mentioned in this episode:
More about The Nicole Walters Podcast:
The Nicole Walters Podcast is for the everyday entrepreneur that wants to increase their income but doesn’t know where to start. If that’s you, you’re in the right place!
Nicole Walters is a wife, mom, income strategist, entrepreneur, and the founder of The Monetized Life™. Join Nicole each week for a new episode packed with what you need to know to gain clarity, grow your network and monetize your life using the proven corporate strategies she mastered in 10 years as a Fortune 500 executive.
Whether you’re just starting out and don’t know your next step, or you’re multi-passionate and don’t know the right next step, Nicole is here to break it down for you! Richfriend, let’s add some commas to your bank account!
Listen each week. Do. The. Work, and success WILL come!
by Nicole Walters | Sep 17, 2019
I have a problem
This chat is a little different than normal because instead of sharing a lesson with you, I’m coming here looking for advice! Why? Because I have a problem.
My problem? All my mom friends are on the internet! Haha. But seriously listen in to hear what advice I need and then come find me on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook and share what is working for you!
I so appreciate this time together and I want to hang out more so come chat with me on social! Also, I’d love to work together in my signature program, 1K1Day Academy. I only open enrollment twice a year and when this episode goes live, we’re open! Head over to 1K1Day.com to join and learn more! Thanks for listening and talk soon!
Read the transcript HERE!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why I’m coming to you for parenting advice,
- What I’m doing to make mom friends and why it feels awkward, and
- How you can help – come chat with me about this on social!
Resources and links mentioned in this episode:
More about The Nicole Walters Podcast:
The Nicole Walters Podcast is for the everyday entrepreneur that wants to increase their income but doesn’t know where to start. If that’s you, you’re in the right place!
Nicole Walters is a wife, mom, income strategist, entrepreneur, and the founder of The Monetized Life™. Join Nicole each week for a new episode packed with what you need to know to gain clarity, grow your network and monetize your life using the proven corporate strategies she mastered in 10 years as a Fortune 500 executive.
Whether you’re just starting out and don’t know your next step, or you’re multi-passionate and don’t know the right next step, Nicole is here to break it down for you! Richfriend, let’s add some commas to your bank account!
Listen each week. Do. The. Work, and success WILL come!
